Cloudscape

Worries are often the result of indecision. We worry about things if we aren't sure what to do about them, or even what to think about them. In fact, worrying is basically about making decisions: the mind recognizes a problem and debates what to do about.

When we think of doing something but dither about what we should do, or if we should really do anything at all, this vacillation may resound in our minds for some time, and for some people longer than for others; at first, consciously; then, when our minds are distracted by other matters, this may go on on a subconscious level. When this happens, we may have the feeling that we have forgotten something we need to do. The feeling that something needs to change leads to unrest. We have a nagging feeling without knowing just why.

At this point, we may struggle, perhaps without being fully aware of it, to remember what it was we still needed to decide about, sometimes to such extent that it causes us to forget to enjoy. We know not what to think about, but we know that we should be thinking about something, a matter which still needed to be settled upon. Since we forgot what it was, we simply go on thinking about what we were thinking until our thoughts wander. The more frequently it occurs that we cannot decide on something, the further we get lost in our thoughts.

On the other hand, indecisiveness may also be linked to philosophical abilities, since people who are indecisive about what to do may also be unable to decide on what to think, allowing them to keep their mind open to possibilities.

Another phenomenon where indecisiveness can lead to anxiety is in an undesirable situation which may or may not be changed. The mind cannot relax and accept the situation before it knows that it will not change it, as it otherwise wishes to seek a way to change it. However, it may be difficult to change the situation, which may lead to indecision whether or not to change it. To make matters worse, to change the situation one may have to sacrifice something else, further making the decision harder. As long as this has not been decided on, the mind will remain in a state where it sees the given situation as something it wishes to change, and therefore it will become more frustrating. As long as the mind thinks of changing the situation, it cannot accept it. However, someone who is indecisive may also be indecisive about whether or not to even think of changing the situation or accept it.

In addition, indecisiveness is also likely to generally slow people down in everything they do, as they spend a large portion of their time deciding what to do, so that, in this way, indecision may significantly make their lives less fulfilling and more frustrating.

Many people may be faced with indecision now and then, but for some people, this may become so frequent that a chronic sense of uncertainty settles in their minds. If this problem becomes severe, these people may eventually develop depression. It has indeed been observed that in depressed people, the prefrontal cortex, the brain's decision center, is hypoactive, which is one of the most characteristic signs of depression. Perhaps indecision is not just a symptom but also a cause or contributing factor of depression, though it is certainly not the only one. Either how, it seems clear that people who are indecisive run a higher risk of developing depression at some point in their lives.

Mancini was thoughtfully holding a glass of wine, seeming lost in thought as he somberly stared through it with that look of calculation that was so typical of the man. Wright, on the other side of the table, was sipping from the same wine with delight, but he could not help noticing the expression on his friend's face.
"Is something wrong?" he asked. "It's nothing with the wine, I hope?" he added, when he saw how fixedly he was staring at his own glass. "I personally think the wine is delicious."
"It is, it is," Mancini said gloomily. "That's what I was just thinking. If I drink it, it's gone."

You can either accept or resist an experience, and if you resist, then that too is an experience, and there is nothing wrong with that. The point is, you can either run from an experience or stand before it and look it in the eyes, and like the monsters in our dreams, the more we'll run from them the more frightening they'll seem, but look closely and you'll find that they're just baby goblins with toy clubs.
You can either accept or resist an experience, and if you resist, then that too is an experience, and there is nothing wrong with that, either. The point is, you can either run from an experience or stand before it and look it in the eyes, and like the monsters in o ur dreams, the more we'll run from them the more frightening they'll seem, but look closely and you'll find that they're just baby goblins with toy clubs.There is nothing to be afraid of, not even fear itself.
The only difference it makes if one is afraid is that one is no longer conscious of the real nature of one's experiences. Like when one is running from a monster, one faces away from it and so no longer sees what it really is, let alone see it for what it really is; likewise, if one is afraid of something, one tries to become unconscious of it - and it works, but not with the desired effect. Suffering is, in effect, is ignorance.
And that's what people just won't get.
If you face your fears, they'll disappear. But what does that mean, facing your fears? It means you accept them, and whatever it is you fear, not resisting. Usually, people are incapable of both accepting their fears and at the same time enjoying. It is in our nature.
When we enjoy life, we try as hard as we can to forget our fears because those might interfere with our happiness. We cannot accept our happiness and at the same time that it might disappear. This brings us into a perpetual cycle of joy and suffering and hope and despair, and the only way we can break free from this cycle is to dispense with the illusion that there is any such thing as good and bad. This liberation is a painstaking process that can only be achieved by suffering - that is, in the sense enduring - those things we cannot accept, and learning to love those things and seeing their beauty.
If we drop the fruit of the Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil, we will regain Paradise. That does not mean we must cease to distinguish light from darkness, but that we should condemn neither. Do that which is most beautiful, and it will create more beauty. But let us see what is most beautiful with our hearts, and not with our minds. Only the mind knows such duality between good and bad because only the mind sees in black and white.